Blurred lines: The #Mollis audio tape and sexual assault

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A woman being sexually assaulted. Image credit http://thenews-chronicle.com/what-many-men-dont-understand-about-sexual-assault/
A woman being sexually assaulted. Image credit http://thenews-chronicle.com/what-many-men-dont-understand-about-sexual-assault/
A woman being sexually assaulted. Image credit http://thenews-chronicle.com/what-many-men-dont-understand-about-sexual-assault/

There is an audio doing the rounds of a guy named Mollis (Morris) having sex with a girl. The girl at some point tells the guy to stop and he says she should stop being stupid. She keeps telling him she surrenders and he keeps going at it. If you listen to it twice I didn’t have the stomach for it she says at the beginning you are raping me(unanirape) She clearly says something about rape at the beginning. I can’t believe that people found this funny. She told him to stop and he refused many times.

3 things disturb me. One that the guy continues going about his business even though she tells him to stop. He doesn’t. He doesn’t care about her feelings at all. He just keeps going. I don’t know who recorded the audio; we had a debate about that. Was it him or did she tape him so that she could use it as evidence? Whichever way it does not matter. What people don’t seem to realize is that at the point where she says no it stops being consensual sex and becomes rape. It seems that the guy doesn’t get it and also many of the people laughing and circulating it don’t get it either. A woman or a man has a right to change their mind about having sex and the other person should respect that.

My friend Blogger Daniel Ominde says it well in this post

I am really angry that nobody is actually seeing this as sexual abuse – I get it, the whole thing might have started as a consensual encounter but If I heard right the lady in the clip did say STOP – not once, not twice – in fact at some point her saying “Mollis (Maurice) Stop, I sulender (I surrender)” almost becomes like a song in the entire clip.

Does a woman have the right to say STOP in the middle of sex?

When a woman says STOP does it mean “I am having fun continue?”

When does consensual sex turn into sexual abuse?

Second I am perturbed by the guys who made jokes about it and even worse made it sound like Morris was a hero for keeping on about it. They even made memes about it. I know some guys who after we had a discussion about it on one of my whatsapp groups who realized that she was having sex against her consent. They went to their social media pages and pulled down any jokes and stuff they made about it. Maybe this is a discussion we need to have.

What constitutes rape and sexual assault? Because I think guys have blurred lines – remember that controversial song.

Applauding such behaivour only makes other guys who do not know the boundary continue along that road. I am glad that some of my friends realized that this is not a joke and that because the woman was not consenting then it was rape. Many men out there are still big uping Morris for going at it like an energizer bunny.

The last thing is how a brand like Zuku jumped on that story. I don’t know if the person who wrote that update heard the audio or not. If they were just hashtag trolling that is one thing but if the person listened to it and still put up that update that is really sick. Either way it is unacceptable what they did. You can clearly tell that the woman was uncomfortable having sex with the guy even if you didn’t hear the part at the beginning where she says unanirape Morris. That has made me re-evaluate that brand and their brand promise. I say to ZUKU shame, shame on you.

Shame on all the people laughing at this woman’s pain and discomfort. I don’t want to ask you how you would feel if it was your sister. What Morris did was wrong and if you can’t see that then you need to take a look in the mirror and ask yourself some hard questions about the type of person you are.

This article What Many Men don’t Understand About Sexual Assault is a great place to start in finding out what sexual assault is.

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  1. While I understand your concern about rape, another person may actually tell the woman’s voice is devoid of emotion and fear at all. It could be rape, or they are both weird in ways with which they express their sexuality

    • At the beginning she told him something about rape something like unanirape. It seems like she is drunk but she still asks him to stop. You don’t have to scream for it to be rape.

      • I agree with you Rayhab, one doesn”t have to scream for it to be rape, I recently read an article where a university couple after a date, went back to the girl’s house, then they cuddled then things started getting steamy, but the girl did not want to go on, however she lost her voice and froze, she was unable to say no. The guy did his stuff then gave her a kiss on her forehead and left. The girl was traumatized to say the least. That is why some people are fighting for a law of constant consent. It doesn’t matter that we are mid way, the moment any partner says no, it has to stop.

        • Rape’s done by the ones closest to us. Sweetheart, honey love… There’s seriously no way you can defend that

          • and you reached this was rape, how? Should the woman come forward and say she was not raped, you will come back and apologise to say “sorry I misinterpreted that”?. Here is the thing Rayhab, I have covered gender violence too many times. In the last two months alone, for women, after making all of us believe they were raped, just recanted their statements and said “they were just angry and they wanted to hit the man back”. I am saying, gender activists do not need to jump on everything they see as rape and leave no room for the truth at all. You, from three minutes sound bite, no confession of rape, you have already concluded that it is rape. Anyone that disagrees with you is “supporting rape”.

          • Its evident – from your argument/conclusion- that you cover gender violence not to help the victims but to get a fix out of their hurting. You are twisted and worse

          • I know that line from all anti-man feminists. Sadly, labelling people do not make the situation better. We, who follow the cases after you are done being a hypocritical keyboard warrior are the ones who make a difference. ION, where did you get your psychology degree? For you to label me “twisted and worse” you must have some sort of basis.

          • I don’t just punch a keyboard; I offer financial support to women issues – albeit small. I was just troubled much when someone who “supposedly makes a difference” doesn’t seem to understand when a woman is being FORCED to continue offering sex. You should be fighting to change men’s attitudes, not taking an excuse just because the woman has been coerced into recanting her complains. Your opinion on this is particular issue is very
            wrong.

          • Okay, Pik pik, or whatever your name is, here is asad truth that you need to know. Women are victims, most of the time in rape. But in sexual violence, any body-man and woman- deserve a fair chance at being heard. This case aside, if you accept women can carry guns in the field, do not block your mind to the idea that they they can also carry out knives, lies and be the villains in abuse. I, rely on truth. I follow those cases, not because I am paid to do them but because I believe that justice ought to abound. We need to have an equal world, not a world where women are more heard than the others because “there has ben historical injustice against them”. Why? You cannot substitute one life for another to level a play ground on gender inequality. I have sons and a daughter. I would want them to be heard when they present their cases. Just don’t jump to the conclusion of victim and villain just because there is a history

    • Just how you start the sentence is disturbing… While I understand your concern about rape… I don’t think there’s a middle ground here. It doesn’t matter what intonation you use to say NO. A NO is a NO! I wouldn’t wish this on anybody I knew, friend or foe… Is it ok because it’s happening to a stranger?

      • Again, she never said no. What happened in that audio is wrong from a moral/humane standpoint but that does not make it rape, there is simply not enough context to conclude that

        • Thank you. No one is ruling rape but just how Rayhab become investigator, lawyer and judge to rule this rape is magic

          • Rayhab how do you know it is not consenting? I asked a question … If a girl says “Babe nimechoka, aki nimeboeka” then the guy continues can she then claim she was raped?

          • That is why the questions are

            Does a woman have the right to say STOP in the middle of sex?

            When a woman says STOP does it mean “I am having fun continue?”

            When does consensual sex turn into sexual abuse?

          • First of all, you did not answer the question I asked you, but I will answer yours.

            Yes a woman has every right to say stop.

            The second question is obvious, but no when a woman says stop it does not mean she is having fun.

            The third question is not a staight forward answer so I cant answer that.

            Now answer my question If a girl says “Babe nimechoka, aki nimeboeka” then the guy continues can she then claim she was raped?

        • She says “unani rape”!! That immediately negates any consent because she believes she is being raped!

      • I will copy what I wrote to you before: and you reached this was rape, how? Should the woman come forward and say she was not raped, you will come back and apologise to say “sorry I misinterpreted that”?. Here is the thing Rayhab, I have covered gender violence too many times. In the last two months alone, for women, after making all of us believe they were raped, just recanted their statements and said “they were just angry and they wanted to hit the man back”. I am saying, gender activists do not need to jump on everything they see as rape and leave no room for the truth at all. You, from three minutes sound bite, no confession of rape, you have already concluded that it is rape. Anyone that disagrees with you is “supporting rape”.
        From experience of camping in courts and following stories of rape, the victim is sometimes the villain. Why don’t I write about that? Because I do not want to plant in the minds of people that there could be a woman that can actually fake rape! Because in most cases, women are victims.

        • Where have I said that anybody disagreeing with me is supporting rape? Can I be clear that the person answering with the username Me is not me. I reply with the name Rayhab

        • Spot on Verah, Rayhab cannot call this Rape.. it can be called many things but rape is not one of them, not with what we have in that very small audio clip

  2. I listened to the first 12 seconds of the clip, and I couldn’t get to a definitive conclusion on what was happening. To some extent, it did sound like it was actual rape that was happening, or it could be the girl ‘sulendering’ herself to his sexual prowess. Then again, this is a clip that is just 3.08 minutes long hence the back story is missing. People assume that she may have been under the influence, but she could also be from the rural areas and that’s how she naturally is. All in all, there are too many gaps and assumptions in this story for one to view it objectively, so rather than assume the worst, people chose to see the flip side of it. It would be wrong for you, as an objective individual, to judge others, and the whole scenario, without the complete story and evidence to back up the allegation of sexual abuse. Should said evidence surface, then we, as a society, should do some soul-searching.

  3. It’s very hard to draw a conclusion from that audio tape. We don’t know the origin and if you do, please share. For all we know it could be two people recording themselves to prank the internet.

  4. I am not defending Moris in any way, I think he is a scumbag, but then again we need to be factual. You say “The girl at some point tells the guy to stop” And after cleaning up that audio and listening it to over 25 times, that part before he says “Wacha Ujinga”, is too inaudible to make out what she said, one can only make out she starts with “ama….” then ends with “….saa hii”. Also the part you say she said “unanirape” well it could be but again, it is too inaudible to draw out that conclusion and say “She clearly says something about rape:”

    Had she said Stop or Morris No, then inarguably that would be rape, but she said I surrender and that guy continued. That makes him an inhumane scumbag who did a very heinous act but is it rape? There is not enough information. My question is if two people are having sex then the lady starts saying “Babe nimechoka, aki nimeboeka” over and over and the guy continues is that rape?

    The law defines rape as:

    a) he or she intentionally and unlawfully commits an act which causes penetration with his or her genital organs;

    (b)the other person does not consent to the penetration; or

    (c)the consent is obtained by force or by means of threats or intimidation of any kind.

    But anyway, You are right about what consensual sex is and what it is not, and people need to understand being told stop during sex that started off as consensual, still means stop.I also did not find it funny in any way. I did even think of it as a form of rape not on the basis of she said stop, because she did not, but on the basis that in my opinion she sounds intoxicated. The reason I say she sounds intoxicated is that she says “Morris I Surrender” over 20 times , even when he paused, she continued saying I surrender over and over. And that does not sound normal.

  5. Ladies, sorry for this but truth is you are not mentioning the part where the lady is saying I was looking for you to f%&^ me and the part that she says “Usikose kuja kesho” Else mayb I heard another audio clip that had that part. Here are a few things to know b4 you condemn Morris and any other guy (Am not justifying what he did though) but here are a few facts about men and sex.
    1. The fact that the lady was looking for Morris to do what they were doing was totally an invite and for a man, if you wanted it you get it.
    2. If you (Ladies) wanted it and you got it enuf after 3 seconds and you decide to call it quits, most men will want to go it full till they get satisfied, so it’s unfortunate many will think your utterances of stop is an encouragement to go.
    3. Am not sex or Psychologist to know how all men think bt was basing my knowledge on few articles I’ve read.
    4. Get married and don’t go on sleeping around b4 you tie the knot to only one man/woman.

  6. I thot alisema usikuje haraka lol.I think once whistle ishakua blown the game lazima ichezwe to the end rough or not lol.hakuna veneye itaanza then atake kusimamisha in the middle…..I bet ingekua Mimi ningeendelea kugonga manyundo mpaka nitokelezee

  7. Take it easy it’s not true it’s just somebody trying to be funny with the sound of the bed and back ground music if you are Kenyan you will get the joke, it’s also trying to show a shy lady, !

  8. Its not easy to determine whether this is rape or not…we simply don’t know the back story. Some like it ruff plus if she was really being raped/assaulted she would have screamed…..

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