Single Lady In Nairobi: With men like these I would rather be single

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Ladies out on the town. Image from http://ow.ly/WzqTZ

Today we start a new series called single lady in Nairobi. These are the thoughts and stories of some of my friends who choose to remain anonymous. Let us know what you think in the comments below.

Today I went through a blog and it listed many reasons as to why women are still single. One reason is that women get good men and leave them in the friendzone as they wait for the hot and sexy scum bag to come their way. The other reason is that, our expectations are so high up. Hmmh… I have written a piece and I would want you to tell me if my ‘expectation’ of this Nairobi man is too farfetched.

I don’t think all the men I meet were born in Nairobi, but I sure know that they picked their annoying habits from Nairobi. Be it schools, clubs or social events, Nairobi men tend to behave the same.

Ladies out on the town. Image from http://ow.ly/WzqTZ
Ladies out on the town. Image from http://ow.ly/WzqTZ

I am one of those people who love being at home and hate visiting people’s house for lunch or dinner. If anything, I will offer my house for a BBQ, a get together or some random lunch. I have come to love hosting people because I don’t think people put in the effort to serve good food in their houses… but I digress.

The today’s Nairobi man lands a woman like me. After a few dates out, we decide to take it a notch higher, and he gets an invite to my house for brunch, lunch or dinner.

Now, what surprises me is that this man will walk into my house EMPTY HANDED. Oh scratch that. He will have his phone and his power bank in his hand and the first thing he will ask is ‘uko na Wi-Fi’.

This same man will expect to eat the good food I make, drink tea, even go ahead and ask ‘uko na drink gani’. Some of us will always have a fine bottle of wine but this whisky drinking man, will drink your wine, no, drown in it. Don’t forget he will expect you to serve him and leave the plate on the table. Oh, and he will still come expecting some. Like hell!

I remember my father would always come carrying something to the house and we would run to see what it was. Sometimes he would just carry a kilo of meat and that was it.

Now I am not saying that these men should shop for the house, I am just thinking, are they expecting us to think they can even be providers in the long run?

Which man walks empty handed to anyone’s house and expects to be fed and walk away a satisfied man? Only a man in Nairobi.

Ladies, beware of such men. Serve him what he has brought. Air. Yes. Of course if you like him, tell him. Otherwise, you will be going to your wallet every time you have a date.

So dear man from Nairobi, when a woman invites you over to her house, be sure she will have prepared a meal. The least you can do is carry a bottle of wine, a bunch of flowers. Get a kilo of meat on your way there. The woman has spent a great deal of time, effort and not forgetting expense to give you an evening of food, drink and entertainment. The least you can do is thank them with an appropriate gift or cater to some of the expenses.

Signed,
Why I am single in Nairobi

***Single lady in Nairobi is a collection of real life stories and opinions from different women. It looks at the current world of dating in Kenya and experiences that ladies have gone through. The views and opinions expressed here are those of the contributors and do not necessarily represent or reflect the views of Potentash.com.

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  1. Myself im not single. I was not lucky to get all those free goodies. Myfirst encounter with my wife costed me over 50,000 shillings. I met her in machakos. She was sharing a room with another lady. The room was soo shaggy i moved them out that shattered room to a motel.
    Three days latter she took me to Kitui village to meet her parents (those stupid Wakamba customs as if the woman belongs to every relative).
    To Nairobian woman, wake up, stop inviting men in your home. If you want to meet a man ask him to meet you in a restaurant near your home town. If the man cannot afford to pay for your meal in the first meeting, kick his ass. Thats a sucker . You dont need a sucker.
    Remember we men we value women the way they value themselves. Your inviting a man in your house because your a low quality woman, a villager a non social media yesterday lady.
    Why cook for a stranger when restaurants are there to cook for you and the man will pay.
    Remember this: When a man loves you he will take you to the moon and bring you back using a rental jet. But when you show him that you dont mind going to the moon using MKOTOTENI or Baskeli, he will use Mkokoteni or Baskeli.
    Wake up woman, your the stupid cheeppy idiot not the man. You will remain single because womem who invite men to their homes we assume they need sex. Sure we will come to your home carrying nothing but condom. You only inite a man in your home after knowing him. That sucker you invite will come back latter and rape you, rob you and kill you. Stop being jack asses. I see why your single. Because your an idiot doing silly invitation that even a dog knows its wrong.

    • I thought she said this “The today’s Nairobi man lands a woman like me. After a few dates out, we
      decide to take it a notch higher, and he gets an invite to my house for
      brunch, lunch or dinner.”

      That ‘they decided to take it a notch higher’… Meaning she’s not inviting a random guy to her house. I do not see the point you are trying to make when you start jumping to the conclusions you appear to have jumped to.

      What she is saying happens all too often… That’s a fact.

      Also, ‘Remember this: When a man loves you he will take you to the moon and
      bring you back using a rental jet. But when you show him that you dont
      mind going to the moon using MKOTOTENI or Baskeli, he will use Mkokoteni
      or Baskeli.’ —– That is true.

    • WOW….captured one or two things and i agree with you. Why cook for a stranger when restaurants are there to cook for you and the man will pay???????? very good question.

      • Kenyan women are very foolish when it comes to entertaining a man. They cook for a man when the idiot is reading.a newspaper waiting for food. What’s the fuck. If the idiot man cannot meet you.at the restaurant and he pay for the food you don’t need him.
        Then after the food the man gets the pussy and goes home. You have to wash the bedding that were left stinking like dead fish, incur food expense and your left alone, lonely.
        What a fool you are. Wake up Kenyan women. No.free pussy

  2. My question, do women also visit men’s houses with something in their hands? Why invite and expect something in return… When you invite you take up the bills without complaining because you chose to, you weren’t forced. I find this some sort of trade which was uncalled for by the invitee.

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