If you’re one of those people who literally cringes or sits in a corner at a social gathering, I feel for you. I came across a YouTube video about introverts in a social setting. The Founder of The Quiet Revolution discusses the struggle of an introvert trying to make her way around at an office party. Introverts are characterized as shy, soft-spoken people. They mostly enjoy some alone time and staying indoors. While there is nothing wrong with this, socializing is part of our human nature and it is unavoidable.
Introverts can get absorbed in their own world or generally, be disinterested in everybody else. It can be frustrating when someone is talking to somebody who isn’t paying attention. Therefore, being interested is an important part of socializing. You can do this be maintaining eye contact (but not in a creepy way) and nodding showing that you are listening. By using this simple gestures, conversations become much easier and it gives the impression that you actually contributed to the conversation.
Another personality trait in introverts is being brutally honest. They don’t talk much but when they do, it might come off as aggressive to most people. Since people socialize to have a good time, this will definitely put people off. Try keeping the conversation light hearted, interactive and happy. If all else fails talk about the weather.
Embrace Your Introvertedness
It can be exhausting trying to force a blubby personality and it might not come off as natural. As I said, being an introvert is not a bad thing. People find introverts mysterious which makes them interesting. Introverts are also kind-hearted. Therefore, focus on these good qualities and more people will warm up to you.
Use More Than Words
Good fashion sense is a great icebreaker when words fail. A complement leads to a conversation. It also gives you confidence in your own skin. Therefore, you might need to invest in some good clothes.
Getting out of your comfort zone can be a scary experience. It is important to ensure you are prepared. If necessary, rehearse a few opening conversations. Breathing exercises help in calming the nerves and remind yourself it’s not that serious and that you need to have fun. How To Network Successfully
Tag An Extrovert Along
Extroverts are like the Ying to an introvert’s Yang. An extroverted friend will pretty much do all your hard labour. They will do all the introductions and help you make small conversations. It is, however, better to learn from rather than follow the extrovert.
Take A Break
Once you have made conversation and let people know your name at the very least, it is ok to retreat. You don’t have to be the entertainer as there are people who are natural at that. However, do not retreat awkwardly to a corner. Take a walk outside, go to the bar and order a drink, or sit somewhere where there are people.
The biggest misconception about introverts is that they are anti-social. Introverts simply socializing differently and maybe we should understand how to socialize with them. However, it’s easier to learn than to unlearn something.