When I first saw this ebook and read the title I immediately started making misinformed opinions and literally judging the book by its cover. Someone had recommended it to one of my chat groups. The first thing I thought was that it would be another write-up explaining to women what they should and shouldn’t do with their lives. Who said everyone wants to get married? Why do we need to be a certain way in order to achieve this status? Is marriage the only thing women are after? If someone is naturally a good girl, should they then start changing things about themselves so that they can get into a relationship? What if it doesn’t work out, who would they have to blame? These are the first things that came to my head and I wondered why anyone would even read such a book.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying marriage is a bad thing. Not at all. In fact, it can be the most beautiful thing to happen to two people. I’m a hopeless romantic and I believe that everyone needs to love and to be loved. What I do not advocate for is people who spend their lives on the edge waiting for love, because then if it doesn’t happen they may actually feel empty for the rest of their lives, and it shouldn’t be this way.
Just by reading the title, I had already started defending myself and my gender, and now I regret it. Later on, someone in the group came back to thank the person who had recommended it. I decided to actually give it a try.
The book is based on a theory that bad girls get married every Saturday while many good girls remain single. I thought that it was going to discuss what women need to change about themselves so that they can meet their significant others. But that’s not what the book is about. In fact, the author, Nelson Asuen gives a disclaimer that being good or bad is not the only condition for a person to remain in a long-lasting relationship. He also states in the opening paragraph that his book is based on opinions that he personally gathered and analysed critically.
What I loved most about it is that Nelson advises women to live their lives and put themselves out there. He encourages women to learn how men think by actually going on dates and spending time with them. He says that good guys are not only found in churches or church programs. They can also be found at events, youth summits, and talk shows e.t.c.
“Most men fall for runs girls. A runs girl takes her time to understand the psychology of men and ways of pleasing them…I’m not saying good girls should become runs girls. I am simply saying they should have their own mindset; get to know how men think, understand their psychology and meet their needs.”
It’s no secret that we must learn how to deal with the opposite sex, and they must learn how to deal with us. At the end of the day, this is the basis of relationships. Knowing how to deal with one another.
The book discusses the mentality which many people have that if they do everything right they will automatically have a good marriage. When this doesn’t happen it can break you. That’s what the book is discrediting. The idea that good people will always get good things.
If you choose to have an open mind when you’re reading this book then it can be extremely eye-opening. That’s what I recommend. Eliminate all bias from your mind and think critically about the message that Nelson is trying to pass across, and you will see that he has a point.
Let me say that this particular book is targeted at women who actually want to get married. There’s definitely nothing wrong with choosing any other path in life.
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