If there’s one thing I can guarantee you about life, it’s that every single person deals with insecurities. Whether it be your body shape, size, or features like your nose or neck, every single person has insecurities. Sometimes it even has to do with your personality. You may be uncertain about your voice or your response to situations.
Whatever the case, it is important to note that in many instances, your insecurities are lying to you. You have to catch yourself in the moment, and stop yourself from those negative thoughts. Here are 6 ways you can deal with insecurities.
1. Learn to doubt your doubts
To deal with insecurities, it’s important to challenge your thoughts. The moment you think a pimple is destroying your entire face, challenge that thought. What if you’re focusing on it too much? Create distance between yourself and these feelings. Although they can seem like they’re coming from yourself, they’re actually an external presence – one that you can analyze, examine, and eventually, eliminate. Start to understand that your doubts are actually your deepest fears, manifesting and parading around as actual opinions.
2. Cut off your comparisons
The internet has made it easier for us to look at other people and compare ourselves to them. Doing this can make you feel worse about yourself. You’re so used to your features that you don’t know how beautiful you are. If you find yourself comparing yourself to people, You have options to mute or block. What we can control is our exposure to people who make us feel less worthy. Simply limiting your social media time can go a long way towards achieving this goal.
3. Get to the root of it
Sometimes our insecurities stem from our past experiences. Maybe someone told you that you were ugly when you were young, or that you will not amount to much. We absorb a lot of things that are said and done to us, and especially when we’re young. Getting to the root of your insecurities can help to deal with them. Speaking with a qualified therapist can help you explore your fears and insecurities by understanding where they come from.
4. Stop saying you’re insecure
A lot of our insecurities are nearly invisible to other people. More often than not when someone mentions something that they’re insecure about, we realise that we hadn’t noticed it before. If you are currently working on your sense of security you are essentially working on changing your narrative. This is impossible if you are still labelling yourself as “an insecure person” or even thinking repeatedly about your many pitfalls in the confidence arena.
5. Affirm your value
Affirmations are a magical tool that can help you change your perspective towards just about anything. When you wake up in the morning, tell yourself that you’re awesome. Put up sticky notes that read I am intelligent. Look into the mirror and tell yourself out loud that you deserve to be here. Take inventory of everything you’re doing right. Chances are, your thoughts about yourself aren’t taking into account the hundreds of positive micro-decisions we make on a daily basis.
6. Stop being a perfectionist
It’s impossible to be perfect. It’s a milestone that simply cannot be achieved by anyone, ever. So what’s the point in spending our entire lives only to keep hitting a brick wall?
Perfectionism is often the result of craving love that we didn’t receive as children. It drives our self-criticism, which further deflates our self-esteem, alienates us from others, and creates a no-win cycle of insecurity. But when we let go of perfectionism, we discover that it is actually the lowest standard we can have, because it leaves no room for growth. Allow yourself room to breathe, fail and grow, and you’ll discover valuable lessons about how to get over insecurities.