Do you ever wake up and you know that it is going to be one of those days? That day you should have probably stayed in bed and given your boss the ‘my tooth was aching real bad’ excuse just to skip work? Well, I must say I gave that idea quite some thought but […]
I walked into the event slightly late with my girls at my side. You know those movie moments where you walk in and everything stops and everyone stares as if even your walk is in slow motion. Walking in as a group of sexy girls in Nairobi makes you feel like you are living out […]
Over the centuries the term “cat lady” has taken on a derogatory meaning. The definition of the term in the popular Wikipedia: A cat lady is a single woman who dotes upon her pet cat or cats. The term is usually considered derogatory, although now it is being embraced more as more people get cats […]
Being single comes with its fair share of anxieties, most of which I can handle with ease. I mean, the colder nights of the month can feel endless and seeing couples with their public display of affection melts my otherwise strong resolve to be independent. However, these are all child’s play compared to the new […]
I had just finished my campus education and I felt cheated. I had come to campus expecting to have the social life I had heard so many people speak about. The crazy nights out where people found themselves sleeping in ditches or the random dating frenzy that most of my schoolmates had picked up. Four […]
Dating in Nairobi is an extreme sport, is what they say. There are no rules to this game (or if there are then they are mostly unwritten so you have to go through countless false starts) and no referees to keep score. It’s even worse that the shared sentiment among my social circles is that […]
She spotted him sitting in the corner booth of the bar-restaurant. He was attractive. Damn. This one would be fun. She walked up to him and noticed he was sipping something from a glass. “Not a beer man?” He looked up, taken by surprise at first, but quickly caught on as she sat down on […]
It started when I met this guy at my friend, Maggie’s party. It was a Friday evening. I was looking all fine, if I do say so myself but I was just out of a relationship so I was not looking for anything besides having a reasonably good time and catching up with friends, maybe […]
You know they say you have to kiss a couple of frogs before you find your prince. God only knows how true it is in this Nairobi city of ours. In June 2013, I was with my frog. This man had cheated on me twice but I stayed because I thought I loved him. I […]
Every day, I used to see a lot of single women in my office, women who—despite being smart, successful and attractive — complain that the dating world isn’t being kind to them and they would rather stay single. However, the pressures of growing up don’t go hand in hand with being single due to the […]
When I looked forward to my life in 3 years after meeting the man I knew would be the love of my life I thought things would be different. I had pictured my boyfriend, now my husband, in our 3-bedroomed house on the outskirts of Nairobi with two kids and maybe a dog or cat […]
“Please sit down, we need to talk.” He had the saddest eyes at that moment. Like his world had just ended. But his world was okay, his world was blooming with love from someone else, mine however, and was just about to come to its epic end. I put down the clipboard full of receipts […]
It was the fifth pregnancy test that year. I lost count of the number I took in the last year. He was waiting outside the bathroom door. To be honest, it was irritating how he always looked at me expectantly and asked, ‘Well?’ when he knew exactly what I was going to say, that we […]
The first time you fall in love, it feels like a storm, it whirls you around, wind billowing though the sails, carrying you off to lands far away you never want to leave. It’s dramatic and intense. The second time you fall in love, it’s more nuanced. It doesn’t come rushing in. You notice the […]
We met at my best friend’s birthday party. He was friends with my best friend’s boyfriend. After the informal introductions, we all settled into the party. I found myself being drawn to him. He was quite the charmer but it didn’t feel superficial. He struck a chord with me that day and we exchanged phone […]